Sexuality in marriage is an important and integral part of love. We would say that both realities are in high fusion but not in confusion. Sexuality is possible without love, and love could exist and survive in marriage without sexuality.
If sexuality is exercised outside the orbit of love, it will never reach the peak of fulfillment: there will always remain traces of frustration floating in the air.
We could assert that through the path of love is where sexuality reaches its beauty and expression. But, in turn, sexuality can lead to love at the peak of maturity and fullness, and it can be said that, in some way, the highest peak of conjugal love is sexual encounter.
Sexuality, without love, is a simple satisfaction of instinct, as it happens, for the rest, in the general universe of the animal kingdom, an act that does not cease of being mechanistic, without beauty or meaning.
In the correct direction through which human nature advances, love appears at first; and sexuality, when passing through the orbit of love, ends up becoming an act full of meaning and spiritually satisfactory.
In the hypothesis that love is absent in marriage or has been frozen, sexuality will become an insoluble problem. Only the presence of love can generate the conditions for sexuality to acquire its inner meaning and joy.
When in the deep relationship of the couple love rises as a living and pulsating flame, then sexual stimulation and satisfaction does not have a preponderant function, but rather jumps spontaneously, without prior programming.
Love is able to solve all sexual problems, because love is creative, for every moment and emergency, it finds the right and timely initiative.
Having love, sexuality comes by itself and is beautiful. But if sexuality occurs, alone, that meaning will be lacking, that joy and light that gives beauty to the sexual act. Yes, it is love that turns sexuality into a transfigured action with borders of sublimity.
Extracted from the book “Happy Marriage” by Ignacio Larrañaga
